Yesterday was my boyfriend's and dad's birthday. So strange when that happens.

Funny that as kids grow up, they all seem to go through phases of the same types of problems. Relationships, peer pressure to "try" things, secrets, money, grades. As parents, we go through it all too. I learned to try not to let their up and down emotions control mine, but geez, it's tough. Especially when I have to do something in response to their behavior. When it comes to greeting them at any time of the day or evening, I always say "you never know what you're gonna get." They might be gushy sweet or breathing fire. lol

So my question is: how old is your daughter? Is this her first boyfriend? Is he a nice guy? Is his being saved his only issue that worries you or is he the tatoo wearing, loud car music playing pierced motorcycle rider? In this last year I have had a lot of people around me in relationships I don't understand. It always amazes me how "love" really does blind us and makes us sometimes compromise on the things we truly want in a mate. Being saved is such a hard issue. I know women who don't have a saved partner in a marriage and it is a very difficult situation when one believes and the other does not. I can only assume that your daughter is young and that this quite possible might be her first love. While it's hard to sit back and watch people you care about "love" someone you think is not the best choice, there really isn't much you can do about it. Once you try and step in, it usually is you that takes all the heat and anger when things go wrong in the relationship. I am by far not an expert in this area, but I have been surrounded by these kinds of situations a lot this year and it's hard. I will be praying for you and I truly hope that things work out in a way that will receive your blessings.

Hi,

He's a nice enough fellow, he just has made some bad choices. He's extremely polite, says yes ma'am and is extremely respectful to me and her father. It's just that he's going nowhere fast, with tank grades, lots of cutting and skipping school and just no prospects for a successful future. I could be wrong but the writing is on the wall for him.

What I mean by 'save' is to save him from himself. She thinks that she can help him turn his life around due to her influence. The saying behind every good man is a good woman is somewhat true. However, Lele hasn't found herself yet and is too young to go down that road.

However, this is her first 'love' and everything I and her father says will not deter her. :-(

Thanks for the encouragement. I need it for perspective.

Well, it does make for interesting conversation on how the word is used, eh? For me the big deal is him changing his karma. I view the world from a Buddhist POV and karma is a big part of it. The saying goes: If you want to know what your karma was like in the past, look at your present. If you want to know what your karma will be in the future, look at your present. Karma changes from moment to moment. It is a sanskrit word that means action.

One can change one's karma at any time with just one action. I always encourage my students and my own children to be mindful of the things they say and do because it can affect the lives of others.